We lose touch with a lot of stuff as we grow older, our dependency, our youthful zest, our firm perky bodies, our nonchalance, but most importantly if not careful we lose those we care about, and I am not talking about death, but we lose loved once to distance and time.
I was thinking over the weekend of people who have made tremendous impact on my life, some I have lost touch with and others that I have just rediscovered after many years (Thanks to the numerous social networks!), and I wondered about growing up, people I knew, those that I wanted to be my friends but never did anything about, those that were my friends but we lost touch, those that died before they could make anything of themselves and it made me realise that each moment, each day should be treated as special, because it is special.
Think about this, even in our families,when was the last time you all spent quality time as a family? Those who are married are probably somewhere else, maybe some distant continent....so now we make plans as individuals. We spend so much time regretting things we did not do (PAST), fretting over things we will do (FUTURE), but forget to be grateful and appreciative of what we do have, which is the gift of NOW, (the PRESENT) I am not saying we shouldn’t have regrets, but do not dwell on them, I am not saying you shouldn’t think about the future either, but don’t worry about it! Like the saying goes;
“Worry is like a rocking chair, it gets you nowhere”
1999,for some reason it stays in my head as the best year of my life, financially things were crap back home, but I had great friends, friends I have lost to distance and death, and some I still have despite the distance and differences in our lives presently. But somewhere in my heart and in my head, that year holds a lot of joy and satisfaction, it seemed like I transformed that year into the Dianah I am today and I have never looked back ever since.
I was blessed with the best friends anyone could ask for, friends who stood by and made each day worth it, friends who deep down were like family.....sometimes I wonder if we could all just come together for just one day, but it’s so impossible, because we are in different cities, different stages of our lives, different continents and we have formed new bonds. New bond with husbands, wives, colleagues, kids, fiancé(e) and we have all these commitments that we can’t keep up with. So we sit down and we reminisce, we write, we make phone calls, we chat, we try to hold on to the part of those relationships that we can, because we know they are a part of us we do not want to give, they were our wonder years.
But the good thing about life is you move on, you create new relationships, new bonds.So, why not MAKE EACH DAY COUNT FOR GOOD so you’ll always be sure you gave it your best shot. Treat people with what is sometimes called the curtesy of Christ, trust me you can’t go wrong on this.