Why Don’t They Want Us?

 I was watching the Fresh Prince of Bel Air while getting ready for work this morning and, and Will’s estranged father had shown up and left him for the second time! And as he wept in Uncle Phil’s arm, he asked the question:
“why don’t he want me” and don’t go correcting my grammar, that was how Will Smith said it!
Well, the reason I am writing this a few days after valentine is this, as much as Will Smith was talking about his relationship with his dad, I realised a lot of people are asking themselves the very same question; kids who have been abandoned by their parents, lovers who have been ditched, spouses going through divorces and even employees who have just been laid off all ask the same question, “WHY DOESN’T HE/SHE WANT ME?” the truth is sometimes there are no answers, and as painful as it might seem at that present time, it might just be for your own good eventually.
It’s so easy to blame oneself and go thinking it’s all your fault, maybe you were not doing the right things, maybe you could have tried a bit more or maybe you are not even lovable…..be that as it may, you probably will never know what you are doing wrong if they don’t point it out, so whose fault is it for not telling you? Theirs! So stop beating yourself, especially if they walked out without an explanation.
Sometimes it might also be your fault, and when it is, most times you simply know it, unless you are in denial. More often than not, people leave because they are selfish and insensitive, how else does one explain a parent abandoning their child, or a man abandoning his family? I am no therapist or psycho analyst, but I do know one thing for sure, when it comes to how we feel and how we treat people, the most important ingredient is communication or else whatever makes you leave just keeps eating you up inside, till you cant take it anymore and just walk away.
I try to talk through any and every situation, in my relationship with friends, colleagues and the guy in the picture *wink* , because truth be told, no one can know exactly how you feel if you don’t tell them, and if you are walking out on someone, it is advisable to tell them why, because it gives them closure! Even when companies let you off they always explain why, no matter how lame the explanation might be, it doesn’t solve the problem, but it helps a bit in assuaging your curiousity and frustration.

On a final note, don’t let yourself go because someone left you, never lose yourself esteem, keep your head up…you don’t want anyone thinking you died cos they left you, make them know that not having you with them is their loss, now that’s what I call revenge!