I try to be as reasonable as the next person, and try even harder not to be biased about the differences between the male and female species, because as a friend of mine would say when we disagree over an issue, “men and women are wired differently”. Be that as it may, we have to reach a compromise so that our differences do not the destroy us, but rather make the relationship/marriage a successful and rewarding adventure.
There will be no relationship rules or guidelines in this piece, just the usual rant and rave based on observation, experience and some people’s reality.
Dutiful wife sits at home, pondering and wondering why he cheats on her, why he seems to have forgotten the good times and all they have been through together, the kids etc…she sits at home feeling sorry for herself, crying and neglecting herself in the process. As sad as it is to have a cheating husband, feeling sorry for yourself is not the solution. You might want to get yourself off that chair, take a break from the sad love songs, romantic movies and soul food and take hold of your life! You might want to ask God, for strength, get a make over, look as attractive as possible and do something interesting with yourself. Look pretty and remind yourself how attractive you are (he must have seen something in you if he married you innit?) re-awaken a zest for life, take your kids out, visit friends and relatives and NEVER go dissing your man to your girlfriends or family, because when the storm is past, they might have lost respect for him. Hatch a plan, make him dinner, be all seductive and sexy, give him a reason to want to come home, if you want your relationship to work, the truth is you have to work like you mean it. I am no relationship expert, but I just feel some women give in too easily to THE OTHER WOMAN.
Mistresses feels she has the power to make him do her bidding, heck she feels he is cheating on her by having a wife! Strange as it may sound, some mistresses have come to see themselves as the real deal in their man’s life, while the wife might as well be his mother for all they care. And when wives go fighting the mistress or nagging constantly about her to their husbands, it only makes it worse, as he ends up justifying his actions with excuses like
"She nags constantly, I just never have peace at home" (she is not insane, if you act right, maybe she won’t nag. Duh!)
Just one tip here ladies, NEVER fight with the other woman, it's cheap, sleazy and it just sinks you down to her level. If there should be any fighting (which I strongly oppose) it should be with your man, afterall he is the one in the middle of the whole sordid affair.
And if he sleeps with everything and anyything in skirts, sorry wifey, you need prayers o!, because a man who sleeps with just about anybody, has some major issues, and only God can help you out of that one.
As usual, you don’t have to agree with my rant and rave, we know some men and women will be promiscuous no matter how much their partners try, but its my opinion that we should give it our best shot, and the last time I checked we are all entitled to our personal opinions, so feel free to leave a comment, tell me how you feel. I’ll leave you with these words, STAY TRUE TO YOUR PARTNERS and COMMUNICATE! because it is important to know what your partner expects in a relationship, so you can come to a compromise and possibly be his Wife and his Mistress.